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“Social competence simply cannot be taught in a structured, artificial classroom setting.
— (Lavoie, 2005)
The best way to practice social skills is to create genuine teachable moments where a child can learn both the overt and the hidden rules of interacting with others. There are a few ways to do this:
Host structured, time-limited playdate with a peer one on one
Use teachable moments at the playground, or birthday parties, or during structured activities or sports.
Family activities like game night, family book clubs, doing random acts of kindness, etc. provide an experience to connect and a way for families to reinforce positive behaviors, and offers opportunities for teachable moments.
What if my kid is struggling?
Some kids struggle with learning how to play with their peers. Play isn’t always easy for everyone. The goal would always be to have children be able to play and interact without adult support. But for some, that’s not realistic. For those kids who struggle, they’ll need additional adult scaffolding until they can play on their own.
Looking for some ideas for home? Keep reading:
Connect with your family & play
Here are some games you can play and activities you can do as a family to help re-connect. During these times of re-connection, real life teachable moments will occur where you can help kids work on their social skills naturally.
To encourage open ended creative play and help kids learn social skills naturally, there are some recommended toys and easy to set up play ideas. Get playing today!
Play Board & Card Games
Hoot Owl Hoot
This is a game from Peaceable Kingdom, known for it's cooperative style game play. All the players work together to get the owls home before the sun rises. Great fun for practicing social skills like cooperating, working together and communicating. Plus it's just adorable!!
Animal upon animal
I just recently discovered HABA games thanks to Table by Teresa. What I love about the games from HABA is that they involve cooperative game play, rather than competitive play amongst players. For children who struggle with managing those competitive type of games, these games are a good place to start. Animal Upon Animal is a stacking game where you work together to build as tall of a structure of animals as you can. We've played according to the directions but we also just free build which the kids love too. I totally recommend this game!
Zingo
This is a Bingo style game. There is a container where the tiles are kept, the dealer pulls it forward and back and reveals two tiles. Whoever calls out the tile first gets it for their board. My kids like to take turns being the dealer, and my 3 year old can manage to get the tiles back in with no adult help. It’s such a great game to increase vocabulary, practice matching, pick up on patterns, and just work on social interactions. There have been many arguments over who said the word first. How do you solve that problem? It’s a good skill to practice with your family before you have your kids play with their friends.
Elefun
One of my dearest friends let me borrow this game after my son played it at her house. My kids love to try to catch the fireflies and they have learned to negotiate taking turns putting in the fireflies. It also keeps them entertained for a long time. It’s adorable!
Don’t Break The Ice
My son loves this game! He enjoys being able to actually use a hammer and hit something. You also have to learn some self control while hitting, because if you knock all the pieces out and the skater falls, you lose! On a couple of occasions, we have played this with cousins, and there are some great lessons there about being patient and waiting your turn.
Clue Jr.
I loved playing Clue with my sister when we were kids! Several years ago, I found Clue Jr and used it when I was working with kids who needed help improving their social skills. The game was pretty easy to set up and was fun to play. They had to pay attention to clues, eliminate suspects and make guesses, just like in regular clue. This was a great game to use with kids to practice social interactions.
Thin Ice
Fun game where you use marbles, tweezers, a little water and tissues. It’s always fun to see and hear reactions when the “ice” breaks.
Spot it!
Each player gets a card. You have to spot the item that both cards have in common and whoever gets it first wins. There are several versions, including numbers, letters, animals and sports themes.
Set
It’s an easy pattern recognition game, but there are all sorts of patterns to choose from, so you also have to be a flexible thinker.
Uno
This game is very popular, but it can be tricky because different people play by different rules. It’s important to teach your child to make sure to talk with people before the game begins so everyone is on the same page when someone picks up a draw 4 or changes the color. It’s good practice to try different uno rules at home and see which ones your kids prefer.
Hedbanz
You pick a card, put it in your headband, and then ask the people playing with you yes or no questions to try and figure out what you are. You have to think of the kinds of questions you need to ask to get you closer to your answer. It can be hilarious!
Storycubes
This game requires some creativity and imagination to make up stories with images you’ve rolled on the dice. There are several different versions of the game out there, and it’s always interesting to see what adventures people tell.
Mancala
This game is addicting. I used it a lot at lunch groups as a school counselor. Kids have also told me they like the sound of the beads when they get dropped into the different sections.
Connect 4
Another game that was very popular with the lunch group crowd. Sometimes kids would play tournaments, or have conversations about whether they played offensively (focused on winning) versus defensively (focused on preventing the other person from winning).
Trouble
Everyone has probably heard the sound of the trouble pop-o-matic. I love this game because there are times you have to go back to start, and it’s a perfect opportunity to show flexibility and good sportsmanship skills.
Apples to Apples
I love this game because it makes people to think about someone else’s perspective. What card will be chosen as the winner will change depending on who is judging.
Bubble Time
This game is similar to Apples to Apples, but uses pictures and captions instead. Everyone can take a turn being the judge, and the judge picks the caption that they think fits the picture best. You have to think about things from the perspective of the judge, so it's another great game to help children work on taking another person's perspective.
Note: Both Apples to Apples Junior and Bubble Talk are for 8+, but younger children can play them if they are on a team with someone who can read for them.
Listmania: An A to Z Quick List Card Game
One of my new favorite games, this is a quick and easy game that would work well for small groups or lunch groups. One card that made my own kids laugh out loud: List things that would make terrible pizza toppings.
toy-ideas.com
If you need ideas for good toys, check out toy-ideas.com. Toy-ideas.com (instagram: @toy_ideas) is run by a Pediatric Occupational Therapist who shares her ideas for better toys for parents to choose for their kids. She also offers personalized toy recommendations, try it out!
Q’s Race to the Top
This game is one of my new favorite social skills games! Why? Because not only do I enjoy playing, children really enjoy playing. The main character in the game is Q, a super smart monkey but doesn’t always have the greatest social awareness and doesn’t always think about others. Q’s Race to the Top is super simple to learn. The game has three types of cards: Blue YOU Cards, Green Q Cards, Orange DO Cards. The counselor in me loves the Blue and Green cards, and the mom in me loves the Orange cards. they get kids moving and doing physical things that are fun and a little challenging. It’s perfect for a child who may have a hard time sitting still for a whole game. And the beauty is it makes children stay invested and involved with the game. Having the physical component is the perfect way to balance out the talking parts of the game.
A Penny for Your Thoughts
Designed by therapists, this game is meant to help spark conversations and connections between kids and adults. There are 4 different decks of cards - person, place, emotion and skill. It's a good way to start tough conversations about big feelings, tough experiences or challenging situations.
PeaceMakers
PeaceMakers is a deck of cards that is meant to help kids practice mindfulness and connect with others. These are great cards to use in at a mealtime or during a family meeting to spark conversations to help kids get a better understanding of their emotions and how they can handle themselves in a safe and healthy way.
Start a Family Book Club
Cook Together
Complete Random Acts of Kindness
Here are several ideas for Random Acts of Kindness families can do together. What a great way to encourage kindness and empathy in your children and connect as a family.
Donate books to the library- We took some of our old books to the library a few months ago, and now we have even more to donate.
Donate items to Goodwill from Kid World Citizen
Leave fun items for kids at the park - We live right down the street from a park. We have some extra sidewalk chalk laying around, I think we’re going to leave some at the park for someone else to enjoy too!
Popcorn Surprise with a free printable from Coffee Cups and Crayons
Valentine’s Day Cards for Kids in the Hospital from the Idealist Mom
Do something nice for a neighbor - Our neighbors had a baby a couple of years ago, and we wanted to do something kind for them, so we made them snacks and I made them a baby blanket.
Giving away homemade hearts from Meri Cherry
Burying Treasure at the Playground - I love this idea from Pennies of Time. We have some small toys in the basement, we’re totally doing this!
Gifts for Dance Class - We had such fun doing this!
Thank you note to the UPS driver - He’s so friendly and I order A LOT of things. Sometimes really heavy things. I think it would be kind if we wrote him a nice thank you card.
Other Places to Get Ideas for Kind Acts
Here are 100 Acts of Kindness from Coffee Cups and Crayons
If you need some ideas for random acts of kindness - check out Pennies of Time - the entire site is dedicated to teaching kids to serve and doing kind acts. There are lots of great ideas here.
Boom Boom Cards - You can do random acts of kindness and track it online! There are different packs you can use as well.
Random Acts of Kindness.org is also a great place to start to get some ideas for acts of kindness to do with your family
Play Pretend and Dress Up
How Pretend Play Helps Kids Learn Social Skills - Blog Post from Encourage Play
Encourge Creativity
A simple way to get kids playing is to set out a few materials, and invite them to play or create whatever they’d like. Here are some ideas to get you started:
Jungle Play Dough Invitation to Play
Invitation to Create Robot Lab
A Year of Play Dough Invitations
Cardboard Box Play inspired by Not a Box
Loose parts is another way to get kids playing and thinking and creating in different ways. Learn more about Loose Parts here:
Loose Parts Play: What, Why & How
Loose Parts Play: Inspiring Play in Young Children
Loose Parts Play: 32 Invitations
Small World Play
Small world play is a great way to encourage and independent play. Learn more:
What is small world play and why is it important?
50+ Small Worlds to Inspire Play
Natural Animal Small World Play
Open-Ended Toys for Kids
Discovery Toys offer Marbleworks, which is a huge favorite in our own home. My kids can be creative, practice working together, and show flexible thinking, all while having a blast.
